One of the terrible mistakes people often make is to become overly weighed down worrying, and anticipating something that will never happen. Worrying is like a rocking chair that only lets you rock back and forth, but doesn’t get you anywhere.
The truth is: In life, we have challenges, and there will always be challenges. But, by focusing on the positive side of life, we will be able to overcome many of these challenges. We have the power to control our thoughts and enjoy endless life of happiness no matter what.
It is very easy to fall into the habit of making mountains out of molehills. This can happen when we always let ourselves be consumed with negative thoughts over small stuffs, or things that will fix themselves with time. Why should we die worrying?
Several researches show that many things people worry about do not even happen. So why don’t we drag our thoughts and worries and throw them into the trash so we can enjoy peace of mind? Drag them by the ears, by the heels, or anywhere you can drag them and throw away. We can easily manage our lives if we can take each day, the burden for it. But the load will be too heavy for us if we carry yesterday’s burden over today, and add the anticipated burden of tomorrow to it. This will make our life complicated. Worry, anxiety, doubt, fear and despair are the enemies which slowly bring us down to the ground and turn us to dust even before we die.
No doubt, this present life is full of ups and downs. There are things we can fix, and there are things we cannot fix. The positive thing is that we have the power to control our thoughts, actions and inactions so we can move on. Why should we allow things we cannot fix hold us back from moving forward?
Sadly, it is often said that there are some born crying, live complaining, and die disappointed, because they did not realize that certain things are beyond our ability as humans to handle. On the other hand, there are people who are always anticipating troubles, problems, and difficulties. In this way, they are constantly in tears trying to manage sorrows that do not exist, and will never exist.
Now, please test your memory. Think for a moment. Today is the tomorrow you perhaps worried about yesterday. What has happened? Ok, if you want to test your memory further, try to recall what you probably worried about 10 years ago, or say one year ago, or say last month. Okay, how about last week? What’s the situation today?
Granted, sometimes things can go wrong in our lives. If things go wrong somewhere in your life, don’t go with them. Get up and stand firm. Be of good courage. Do the right thing you need to do within your limit as a human, then choose to be happy and move on. Happiness is not inherent. It is a choice we have to make individually.
On the other hand, it may be necessary to do an honest self-examination about what we are actually worrying about. Is it perhaps something we need to let go a long time ago? Then, let it go and move on instead of holding on to it and worrying about it. One great practical tip for letting go is to first accept it, then let it go. When we yield instead of holding on, we stop making the problem bigger for ourselves.
Let yesterday go. If you can’t sleep because of sudden worry, please get up and do something. It is the worry that affects your health, not the lack of sleep.
My beloved friends, You are wonderfully made. You are special. So, why should you allow worries to overpower you and destroy you? Please, get up. Lighten up. Fill your life with love and positive thoughts. Remember, after 100 years from today, it’s all new people.
Echelah Mazi is a motivational speaker and writer. He lives in Los Angeles, CA.